10 Retirement Planning Tips for Couples with a Big Age Gap

It may be frustrating sometimes if you and your partner disagree about some of your retirement plans. But what happens when you add a big age gap into the mix? 

Things can get even more complicated, making it especially challenging to build wealth and avoid money problems.

Here are some retirement planning considerations if you have an age gap of 10 or more years.

If there is an age gap, the first issue is deciding when each of you should start receiving Social Security benefits.

The Social Security Administration's website has a calculator that can help you estimate how much you will receive each month, depending on when you decide to start collecting it. 

If the older person starts benefits at age 70, they will get the highest possible monthly amount. The younger partner can then wait until their full retirement age or even until age 70, thus maximizing benefits for the couple.

Health care costs can eat up a good chunk of your retirement savings. You don’t want to spend piles of cash on end-of-life care only to leave your partner with nothing.

Remember that one of you may get sick or have health issues before the other one, so it’s important to factor in things like long-term care insurance or Medicare costs when setting your retirement goals. 

With health care costs projected to be $5,700 per year for those 65 and older, you will want to set aside money specifically for health care.

Setting realistic goals for your retirement savings should take into account your age gap.

You may want to consider waiting to diversify your portfolio into less risky holdings if one of you is still working. Or perhaps you should be looking to add money to your savings because one of you may live longer.

If you’re lucky enough to have a pension, you should check the rules that affect distributions from the fund for both you and your partner.

If you’re the older partner and dependents won’t receive some of your pension when you’re gone, you’ll have to remember to save extra money for your younger partner to cover any loss in income. 

And make sure you have a clear understanding of how you can maximize your pension for both you and your partner.

Long-term care, such as assisted living or nursing home, is another expensive expense that could eat away at your retirement savings.

Think about getting long-term care insurance that can benefit both you and your partner regardless of your age difference. You’ll also want to consider how your age gap can affect things like assisted living if one of you is older or one of you is still working.

Retirement may be a good time to downsize to a smaller home to save money or move to a lower-cost-of-living area.

But what happens if your partner is still commuting to work nearby? You’ll want to factor in the costs of staying in your home or being close to an office for a longer time, even if one of you has retired.

You may be ready to retire while your partner may still be in their prime earning years.

Depending on how your retirement portfolio looks, that can be a good thing. You may be able to add extra money to retirement funds or take on a little more risk in your investments. Having a working partner can be a positive and important part of your retirement plan.

It’s important to have a will, and even more so if you’re in a relationship with an age gap.

Talk to a lawyer or estate planning specialist about how to properly distribute things like real estate, savings, or retirement funds that can benefit the younger partner. 

If you do this while you’re still healthy and newly retired, it can save a lot of heartache for your partner when you’re gone.

You may want to retire soon while your younger partner may still enjoy working or earning income.

It’s good to discuss your expectations if one of you is retired while the other is still working. Vacations will still have to be planned around the employed partner’s paid time-off schedule. 

The retired partner may need to find something productive to do while their partner is at the office, such as volunteering or becoming active in your community.

Regardless of your ages, you will need to lay out all of your potential retirement income and expenses to see how much you can expect to have. Now consider if your age gap may affect those decisions about retirement.

Identify ways to avoid throwing away money or spots that can help you boost your bank account so you’re in a better position to retire together. 

You’ll also have the extra peace of mind of knowing that your partner will still have money to live a good retired life when you’re gone.

Retirement planning has to be suited to your particular needs, which may have more variables if you’re in a relationship with a big age gap. However, an age gap may also work in your favor regarding your finances.

If one partner is still working, what will retirement look like for the other partner? Maybe the younger partner can retire early, and you can retire together and still make your plan work.