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10 Holiday Tipping Rules Most People Get Wrong

The holiday season is here—don't let tipping faux pas ruin your relationships.

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Updated May 15, 2025
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The holidays are upon us. At this time of year, tipping can show appreciation and encouragement for a good start to the new year.

There's almost nothing better than feeling financially boosted during the holidays, and what better way to spread the love than by eliminating some money stress for others?

But tipping rules aren't easy to understand, and the act of tipping isn't always black and white. Here, we've curated 10 tips for holiday tipping that seem to confuse people.

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Tipping for ordinary service

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As is normally the case, tipping exists on a sliding scale for a reason. Even during the holidays, you do not need to feel obligated to pay top dollar for a service that's lacking. A tip does not need to be administered if you received sub-par or even ordinary service.

Any service provider or staff member who goes above and beyond — or provides customer service during your stay — can absolutely be considered for a tip.

Tipping professions with ethical restrictions

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Some professions have ethical standards that prevent them from accepting tips or gifts. For example, USPS mail carriers can't accept cash tips or gift cards, but they can accept gifts worth up to $20. Additionally, doctors, DMV workers, policemen, accountants, and several other professions typically don't accept tips.

While it may feel fun to spread the wealth this holiday season, try to restrain yourself to a thoughtful or edible gift in some cases.

Tipping teachers directly

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Teachers aren't employed by you, so you shouldn't tip them directly. Public school teachers are already being paid directly out of your pocket by the municipality's taxes, so consider your financial obligation taken care of.

Instead, you can contribute to a class gift or gift certificate. Encourage your child to make something for their teacher or find out their favorite local shop to purchase from if you'd like to make a lasting impact this holiday season.

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Tipping with cash when it's not accepted

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Most cashless restaurants frown upon tipping their workers in cash. Feel out the environment before committing to tipping on your card, as that can sometimes incur an additional fee.

In some cases, workers aren't allowed to accept cash or cash equivalents, such as gift cards. This can sometimes be a corporate, chain-wide policy. Sometimes, it's just the owner's preference. If at any point you are unsure, ask your barista, waiter, or host.

Tipping with overly personal items

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Avoid regifting or purchasing overly personal items, like pajamas or pieces of art, as a tip for someone, especially in a restaurant. Money can go a lot further this time of year and beyond.

If you've gotten to know the vendor or service provider's preferences over some time and would like to give them a gift alongside a cash tip, feel free.

Tipping with handmade items

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Most people won't turn down a baked good or handmade scarf, especially as they try to stay cozy. However, these types of items are never acceptable in food establishments and only feel appropriate with long-term vendors and providers.

Further, items such as baked goods or crafted items should not replace a tip.

Tipping without considering the recipient's food preferences

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Never tip with food or beverages — alcoholic or otherwise — unless you know the recipient's dietary restrictions. You don't want to give them something that could affect their health or well-being.

When it comes to choosing a gift, dietary preferences are almost as important as dietary restrictions. If your friend hates bread, a seasonal panettone will not be appreciated.

Tipping repair people

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You may feel inclined to tip people who come out to repair your household items and appliances. Your plumber, electrician, and HVAC contractor might struggle a bit trying to find solutions for your aging home, but they're also tradesmen who have not come to expect tips.

Tipping with crumpled bills

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Now, more than ever, you want your tips to be crisp. There is almost nothing more unappealing than reaching into your pocket or shirt to pull out an ugly, balled-up bill that you then have to unfold delicately, especially during cold and flu season.

Not only are crumpled bills unsightly, but they're difficult to flatten out. Don't even consider using that money in a vending machine.

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Not leaving a personalized note

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Cash is king. But if you have a regular service provider — like a masseuse, nail or hair artist, or bartender — or are working with a vendor long-term on an event or project, showing your appreciation in a tangible way can win you some major brownie points if nothing else.

Even if you can't necessarily afford a tip that makes a difference, then leave a detailed note of appreciation. If you feel called to, carry around some blank notecards just in case you experience exceptional service throughout your day.

Bottom line

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By understanding tipping customs, you can not only avoid social faux pas but also optimize your holiday budget.

So, before you embark on your holiday travels, brush up on your tipping etiquette to avoid wasting money this holiday season.

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